I’ve known moms that were going back to work too soon after the baby. That goes for doing household chores after giving birth too. Lucky me, I was in China and was told to rest up.
I’m glad I did, but it was also maddening to watch my mother-in-law clean the opposite way I would have. I kept telling myself that I’d be able to fix it soon enough.
Housework after a c-section is discouraged, and for a good reason. I mean, it’s MAJOR abdominal surgery.
So, if those piles of laundry and crusty floors are getting you down, hang in there. I feel you on that.
Also, you should be cautious of participating in certain household works during pregnancy.
Doctors put postpartum activity restrictions in place to avoid having you come back in with a severe injury. This is especially true if you’ve had a c-section. But having a postpartum timeline to when you can begin postpartum cleaning will help you keep things in perspective.
I remember scrubbing my house every day up until I gave birth. Let me tell you…it was exhausting. You’re really not supposed to do lots of chores when you’re heavily pregnant.
In fact, the day my water broke with my eldest, I’d been cleaning up after my mother-in-law had gone back to her home. She’d tracked some mud in from the front door, and it drove me crazy. I scrubbed that up, and then not long after, my water broke all over the place.
When I came back from the hospital with my baby, I had to take it easy. Doctor’s orders. Not that I could have broken them if I tried. I was in too much pain. One of my friends came over and cooked for me and cleaned everything. What an angel!
Anyway, if you need an excuse to let chores fall by the wayside, now’s your chance. I urge you to embrace this because:
- Your baby needs you now more than she ever will.
- Your body needs the rest.
- You do too much anyway.
- Before you know it, you’ll be wishing someone else would do those darn chores, so please take advantage of the help now!
Table of Content
- Safe Return to Household Works: Vaginal Delivery vs. C-section
- When can I start doing household work after delivery?
- How do I know if I’m overdoing it after I give birth?
- How long do you have to wait to go back to work after having a baby?
- Can I do all household work after delivery?
- Is mopping safe during pregnancy?
- Can I drive myself home after giving birth?
- When can you drive after giving birth?
Safe Return to Household Works: Vaginal Delivery vs. C-section
I know you want to get back to everything you liked doing before you had your baby, such as drinking your wine, having sex, or going to the gym. Of course, I’m sure there are activities you’re less than keen about getting back to, you know, like chores.
But whatever the case, the table below will help you determine at a glance what you can and can’t do or when you should wait. It has been broken down for vaginal delivery and cesarean delivery, so follow the right column.
As always, you should speak with your doctor about your unique situation. Some mamas feel fine after a vaginal delivery and have no tearing or anything. In that case, your doctor may say to go for it. But others of you may need longer to recover, and that’s ok too.
You need to do what’s best for your body. Don’t push things, or else it will take even longer to recover. Focus on your health and wellness, and if you notice any of the warning signs I mentioned, call your doctor right away. Once you get your postpartum checkout, you should be cleared to do everything, but make sure you ease into things even with that clearance.
Now, check out the chart below, and you’ll see when you can get back to everything!
|Activities||Vaginal Delivery||Cesarean Delivery|
|Walking||After 24 hours||After 6-8 weeks (you will be encouraged to lightly walk around about 12-24 hours after delivery though walking for exercise should wait until after postpartum checkup)|
|Taking Stairs||After 1 week||After 3 weeks (if you have stairs in your home, try to limit how often you go up and down them)|
|Bending over||After a few days, depending on how you feel||After 4-6 weeks|
|Taking a bath/shower||Limit baths but go for showers as soon as you can stand. Sitz baths (with 2-3 inches of water) are ok.||After 6 weeks for bath; For shower, it can be after 24 hours as long as you cover the incision with waterproof adhesive|
|Using the bathroom||As soon as you are able to||About a day afterward, when they remove your catheter|
|Light Housework (cooking, washing dishes, clearing the table, etc.)||After a few days, but only if you are feeling up for it||After 6 weeks|
|Heavy Housework (moving furniture, carpet & refrigerator cleaning, etc.)||After 2 weeks, but listen to your body||After 6 weeks, when you have your postpartum checkup|
|Light exercise (slow walk, sitting using a computer, stretching, etc.)||After 24 hours||After 6-8 weeks|
|Intense exercise (hiking, gym workout, bicycling, etc.)||After a few days, unless you’ve had vaginal tearing||After 12 weeks|
|Lifting weight heavier than baby||After 6 weeks||After 8-12 weeks|
|Driving||After 1 week||After 3-6 weeks|
|Swimming||After 7 days (until bleeding stops)||After 6 weeks (until bleeding stops)|
|Laundry||After 1 week (try not to lift anything heavy)||After 1 week (as long as you do not lift a heavy basket or bend)|
|Mopping||After 6 weeks||After 6 weeks|
|Vacuuming||After 6 weeks||After 6 weeks|
|Drinking Alcohol||After you’ve been checked over at the hospital (and limit it to one drink)||After you check out of the hospital (could be a few days; also limit yourself to one drink)|
|Childcare for other kids||After 1 week (as long as you feel up to it)||After 1 week (as long as you feel up to it)|
|Sexual activity||After 6 weeks||After 6 weeks|
|Back to workplace||After 3-6 weeks||After 6-8 weeks|
When can I start doing household work after delivery?
You can start doing household work again 2 weeks after delivery if you’ve had a vaginal delivery. That doesn’t mean when your baby is 2 weeks old, you’ve got to dive right into everything, though.
If you feel up for it, go for it.
Vaginal deliveries are a bit easier to recover from. Ideally, you’ll do some postpartum walking and ease yourself into it.
I recommend postpartum walking for those of you with a c-section too, as long as your doctor says that’s ok. For the most part, once they untether you from that catheter, you should be walking a bit more and more each day to get your strength up and recover.
But by no means should you push yourself.
As for those of you with vaginal delivery, after 2 weeks and an all-clear from the doctor, you can usually get back to those daily tasks around the house. Wiping down the counters, washing the dishes, and simple non-strenuous tasks are the ones to start with.
Anything that requires more effort than that may be too complicated right now. You should listen to your body and if you feel any pain, stop and rest.
If you’ve had a c-section, it will likely be about 4 to 6 weeks before you can resume heavy housework. You can go for postpartum walking and take the stairs as long as you’re not doing it excessively.
But for you, avoiding lifting anything heavier than your baby is an urgent matter. Vacuuming after a c-section is not a good idea at all because it will put a strain on the area of your incision and may disrupt your recovery.
In fact, anything that involves bending over or pushing something should not be done by you. Not yet anyway. I know it’s hard to sit back. But this isn’t laziness. This is about taking proper care of your health.
Without your good health, you can’t be there for your baby, and she needs you.
I know not a single person who has ever been criticized for a messy home in the first 4 to 6 weeks after giving birth. If the mess bothers anyone who comes in, like your in-laws, they can hush up and grab the vacuum and mop then.
Friends and family will usually offer to help, but don’t hesitate to ask for assistance when needed. When you get the rest you need, you’ll be better able to power through it all on your own soon enough.
How do I know if I’m overdoing it after I give birth?
Glad you asked! There are signs of overdoing after a c-section you should pay attention to. And these are a good reminder of why the doctor has told you to rest and take it easy.
Bleeding is heavier and redder
You’ll notice this if you’ve had a vaginal delivery too. But if you rest up after delivery, your blood flow will begin to lessen. Of course, it’s normal to bleed after having a baby. Day by day, though, that blood should be getting less and less.
Here are some insights on heavy and irregular period issues after a c-section.
You will see bright red blood that gets heavier and heavier if you’re overdoing things. For goodness sake, Cinderella! Handoff the mop and take a nap with that sweet baby!
I had no choice but to climb up a mess of stairs to get to our apartment in China because there was no elevator to our apartment. Very common thing there. After that, I needed to rest. I could feel the pressure in my vagina, and it sucked.
If you’re overdoing it, it will feel almost like someone kicked you down there. Or like you fell on the balance beam in gymnastics. Yes, ouch. Ouch, ouch, OUCH.
You feel overwhelmed and tired
There’s a reason your doctor has told you to rest. Your mind and body need it so desperately. Your hormones can’t balance, and your body can’t recover if you’re pushing it.
Right now, the only thing you should focus on accomplishing is taking care of the baby and getting your rest. Everything else will get done in its own time, I promise!
Surprisingly, drinking after giving birth is fine as long as you’re not breastfeeding. Why not have a little wine to relax? And if you are breastfeeding, a drink will be ok as long as you pump and dump.
I was drinking after giving birth. I fed my baby and then had my drink. Then I pumped and dumped. My husband fed her with the milk I’d pumped previously, and then I took over again. It was so nice to have some wine again. Try it, and if you have any other concerns about drinking after birth, ask your doctor.
I can assure you that you will not want to be drinking immediately after giving birth. Even if you’re a partier. You’ll be totally tuckered out.
How long do you have to wait to go back to work after having a baby?
I haven’t met one mom yet that couldn’t wait to go back to work after having a baby. Everyone wanted to stay home. I know that’s not always possible depending on what you do for a living and where you work.
You should NEVER go back to work – even to a desk job – without having your doctor clear you first. NEVER!
Even with vaginal delivery, you’re going to have changes in your hormones and all sorts of adjustments in your body that will make you so exhausted you won’t be able to keep your eyes open at times.
And yes, of course, there’s the matter of taking care of your baby 24/7. You’re going to be pooped, believe me.
But if you’re feeling up for it and want to get back, you may be able to with your doctor’s approval 3 weeks postpartum. For c-section moms, you will likely need to wait 6 weeks. And even if you had a vaginal delivery, a good rule of thumb is to wait 6 weeks anyway.
This gives you time with the baby and time to adjust mentally and physically to all these changes that have happened in such a short amount of time.
Can I do all household work after delivery?
No, you can’t. I recommend you try your best to ignore any mess for a good 6 weeks after your c-section. If you’ve had a vaginal delivery, you may be ok to do those chores before then, but don’t do anything strenuous before getting your postpartum checkup.
Some things are simple and require minimal effort, like wiping up the counters in the kitchen or bathroom. Or anything that doesn’t require bending or reaching.
But you really want to take it easy. Because if you overdo things, you’ll need even more time to recover. And you could cause damage from which you may not recover. It’s your chance to rest, and let me tell you, you will kick yourself if you don’t take it now!
So, that’s a big no to:
- Anything that requires lifting something heavier than the baby
- Anything that makes you bend at the waist
- Anything that has you stretching up too high
You can do laundry if someone brings it to the laundry room for you, and you don’t have to bend to get the clothing. You can also fold clothing while you lay on the bed and relax if you want to help out.
But scrubbing, pushing, pulling activities are not good right now. Get your strength back first!
Is mopping safe during pregnancy?
This is such a great question too. Because most of us don’t think about getting that rest before the baby comes. I mean, we try, but we get that urge to do nesting, and it makes it hard to relax until the floor sparkles. I remember.
However, when you get to the end of your pregnancy, handoff these chores to your husband, relatives, friends or hire someone to do it. Your center of gravity changes as you get bigger, and you can fall more easily.
That’s especially true with wet floors. Just please take it easy!
Can I drive myself home after giving birth?
No! Oh no, you can’t do that. And you won’t want to, I promise. It hurts to sit up after a c-section. And my friends that have had vaginal deliveries weren’t exactly feeling so hot while sitting up either.
You’ve just given birth. You need to rest. You’re tired inside and out, and that’s never a good combination for driving. Especially the first time you bring your baby home in the car seat.
Plus, even if it feels fine, you may suddenly feel pain sitting like that. Then what will you do? Please make sure your husband, a friend, or a relative gives you and your baby a ride home. Do not drive yourself!
When can you drive after giving birth?
After a vaginal delivery, you can start driving again in a week as long as you’re feeling better. Even then, it may still be uncomfortable because your abs are used when you move your foot from one pedal to the other.
You don’t notice it before having a baby, but my friend Denise said she couldn’t believe how much it hurt. She planned a visit to some relatives nearby about 2 weeks after giving birth and decided after she drove herself to the store that she couldn’t sit in the car like that for 45 minutes.
For those of you who have had a c-section, you should wait for 2 to 3 weeks before you drive yourself. You shouldn’t be lifting anything heavier than the baby, and your child’s car seat is much heavier than that.
If you must drive yourself anywhere, please make sure someone has correctly installed your car seat for you. Take someone along, so you don’t overexert yourself.
Another important shred of advice for c-section mamas is this…your abdominal muscles are so weak right now. They’ve been sliced open, you know. This takes time to heal. It will hurt when you first start driving, and you’ll feel very gingerly about it all.
It’s really best to wait because it will be harder for you to react if you need to stomp the brakes in an emergency.
Overall, it’s best to wait for all these activities. If you’re ever unsure, just ask your doctor. But take that time to recover, and you’ll have a better ability to manage all those chores, work, tasks, driving, baby, and more soon enough!
Leslie Berry lives with her husband and two young daughters in Los Altos, California, where she loves helping other moms get comfortable with motherhood and embracing the insanity with facts peppered with laughs.
She loves eating too much sushi, exercising, and jamming out on her Fender. Read more about Leslie here.